“You can’t make money online!”
This is what my better half told me when I first said I was going to start in Internet business.
I had just moved to Japan and gotten married, and I wanted a way to earn money that would also give me the freedom to travel to and from Australia. An Internet business sounded like just the ticket.
My wife didn’t see the opportunity as clearly as I did though. I was DETERMINED though, so I had to boldly but politely say ‘Honey, I’ve got this’. I went for it.
I spent a couple of thousand dollars getting coaching (I was a complete newbie!) and the basic tools I needed to start an online business together (autoresponder, website, advertising, etc.).
Then it was up to me to PROVE HER WRONG! To be honest, that was a big part of my motivation. I didn’t want to let her or I down.
I was on a mission to make it work. I gave up TV and social events. I would stay up late, tapping away at the keyboard, making it work into the wee hours of the morning…
Slowly but surely I was chipping away.
I would get a few subscribers every day through safelists and free traffic from articles and feeder pages. Slowly but surely I got more and more subscribers. I got more and more order buttons up online for selling digital products I thought my list would buy.
Eventually, my hard work paid off. I started to make a sale a week, then one every two days, then one everyday.
The snowball effect start kicked in. My small successes added up to big successes.
I was seeing PROOF that this was working and I could turn this IM business thing into a serious income.. Now I just needed to keep it up! So I did.
Today, I am making a fine income from my online business, and most of it on autopilot. I was (and still am) building a business, not just making money.
It sure as hell didn’t happen overnight though.. there were days when I thought I’d never see a penny come my way!
“This isn’t working!”, “What’s the point?!”
Did I ever have doubts and come close to throwing in the towel? Of course. I don’t think there is any Entrepreneur who hasn’t had doubts and though a million times “Is this gonna work?”
I would ask myself almost daily “What’s the point?”
What’s the point of setting up this product? What’s the point of writing this blog post? What’s the point of making this video? What’s the point of writing this many follow-up emails?”
But do you know what?
I COUNTED MY SMALL SUCCESSES
Like feather’s on a camel’s back. Eventually, one too many will break it.
In my IM career, it truly was a case of starting slow, placing feathers on the camel’s back.
Results came in so small at the beginning. I could hardly see the rewards. But they were there.
Each new subscriber, each new blog post, each new video, each product launch, each JV connection, each email broadcast – were ALL a little success, progress – and it all added up.
Each small success was proof that I could do this.
Each small success was a boost in my confidence.
I AVOIDED NEGATIVITY
I just wouldn’t accept anyone’s dumb statements like “you can’t” or “you’re wasting your time”… Those kinds of comments can break you.
The skepticism comes because they simply do not understand what an ‘internet business’ is. They fear it. They don’t believe they could ever do it, so they try to smack down anyone who thinks they can. Don’t allow yourself to be brought down.
If you think you’ll get some negative backlash from someone, just don’t tell anyone your plans or ideas. You don’t need to tell anyone. Keep your dream and your activities secret from your family or friends who just don’t understand.
Avoid negativity at any cost if you want to succeed. And that includes the voice in your head.
Whenever someone (including your brain) says something negative, change the subject quickly. Go somewhere else or think positive thoughts. Think about the reasons WHY you can do it.
You don’t need to convince anyone but yourself that you can succeed. You will be able to convince other people when the dollars start rolling in. How can they argue with you then?
Soak Yourself In Positivity
With the internet, digital and physical books and audios, it’s easy to feast on positive and motivating material. In fact, it’s a MUST!
Even though I didn’t have a lot of support from my spouse, I was surrounding myself with others online (particularly my coach) who were also doing the ‘online thing’.
I was also reading a lot of books and training courses. A book that changed my life was “The Magic Of Thinking Big” by Dr David Schwartz. I realized my potential to achieve anything I set my mind to.
If you can get your non-supporting spouse to read some books like that or meet some of your friends who are already successful online, then you can watch the skepticism wash away.
In fact, socializing with other successful business owners has huge benefits. Head over to Meetup.com and search for ‘entrepreneur’ or ‘business’ groups in your area.
Start mingling with like-minded people. That will bestow even more confidence in you and give you ideas, not to mention your network will grow and the possibilities of joint venture deals.
So when your spouse or other family member gives you negativity, be strong. Don’t believe them! Say ‘I’ve got this’ and do what you have to do to make it work.
I hope these ideas and tactics are useful for you to build your confidence and get small results, that will eventually break the camel’s back and turn your hard work into a business that provides a great source of income that you (and your spouse) can enjoy!
To your success,
p.s. Skeptical spouses aren’t all that uncommon. Comment below if you’ve got (or had) a skeptical spouse, and what you’ve done to prove him/her wrong!